"How to Kiss Goodbye To Ana - Using EFT in Recovery From Anorexia"

published by Jessica Kingley Publishers (based in London and Philadelphia).

A personal and professional account of how EFT can aid in recovery from anorexia, including my own diary extracts, questionnaires, worksheets and easy to follow tapping scripts, as well as other resources.

Providing practical advice and techniques to help people with anorexia (and other eating disorders) to feel relaxed about food and their body, to allow them to feel free without anxiety.

• Do you struggle with eating?
• Are you stuck in a cycle between restricting and bingeing?
• Does part of you want to stay safe where you are but another is desperate to find a way out?
• Would you like help but fear losing control and gaining weight?

Would you like to:
• Quieten the voice in your head?
• Feel more relaxed around food, eating and your body?
• Increase your confidence and self-esteem?

As a recoverer of anorexia and bulimia, I share my own story, mostly in diary form whilst I was an inpatient, how every day I felt tortured by the negative voices in my head. When I was discharged, although I learned to eat, the voices still taunted me.

I discuss what helped me recover and in particular how EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) transformed my life by dealing with the root cause(s) and changing my mindset rather than focusing on meal plans and goal weights. Once I felt confident and strong, the voice in my head went quiet, and the reasons I never wanted to recover, diminished. Recovery was the battle of my life but I won!

Now a qualified Practitioner helping other women, I outline options for help available and specifically how EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can be used as a self-help tool. The book includes: questionnaires, worksheets and tapping scripts, and looks at denial and fears about recovery.

I write to offer hope and encouragement, and advise on how to give yourself the best chance to break free. I knows that others unfortunately haven’t had the same happy ending and my heart goes out to their families, and it is in memory of those tortured souls that I have written this book. I pray that no one has to endure further suffering to the devil in their head.

“This profoundly moving book chronicles the underlying issues behind the author’s descent into the darkness only sufferers of anorexia and bulimia truly know. Gained through her own healing journey, Kim offers hope to fellow sufferers with practical and therapeutic solutions…a must read for anyone suffering from eating disorders, and their families.”

Karl Dawson, Author, Creator of Matrix Reimprinting, EFT Founding Master

“Compelling and Honest”

About Me

My name is Kim Marshall.

Having recovered from anorexia, I know first hand how consuming it can be. You start off thinking of anorexia (Ana) as your best friend, who you can depend on, is always there for you and who makes you feel better about yourself. Well initially that’s true. But then your best friend switches and starts saying hateful things about you and places strict demands on you. You may know that this isn’t right, but you go along with it anyway because she’s already gotten hold of you, took your confidence and self worth. It’s a desperate place to be where you feel alone and don’t know how to feel better.

As a qualified practitioner, I want to reach out to you and give you hope.

Offering a gentle approach, I work with your underlying emotions rather than concentrate on food and weight. Because restricting is a symptom of anorexia, I look to get rid of the root cause so that total recovery is possible, rather than just ‘managing’ your eating disorder.

I am a qualified EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner and a member of the professional bodies, AAMET and EFTMRA. You may not have heard of these techniques, but that doesn’t matter, they are just the tools I use in order to help you, and they work incredibly well.

Being in control made me feel good and with Ana by my side I felt invincible. However this feeling didn’t last and soon she became abusive, making me feel worthless, despising myself and my body. I became tortured by the voice in my head, by food, eating and strived for goals that would never lead to happiness. I felt like I was in the deepest darkest well with no chink of light shining through. Every time I tried to eat a little more I’d be consumed by guilt and shame and Ana would scream at me, and this led to a binge. Even more guilt, shame and screaming followed and I’d be desperate to get rid of the food I’d just eaten. I felt alone and desperate and considered suicide several times a day. Part of me wanted to get out of the well, but the other wanted to stay, as I wanted to stay safe and in control. I struggled to want to recover as I just thought it meant I’d be fat, and the thought of putting on weight terrified me.

Eventually I was admitted as an inpatient to an eating disorders centre and although during the 4 months there I learned to eat and restored weight, the voice in my head never ceased and when I was discharged I still felt the urge to return to old behaviours.

I was soon introduced to EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) which I used to transform my life by dealing with the root cause(s) of the eating disorder which changed the way I felt about myself. I used to feel fat, ugly, worthless, unlovable, second best to everyone else, like I didn’t belong, that I had to be perfect in order for people to like me. Now I see things so much differently after clearing the issues from my past. I now feel able to deal with my life and although I still have stressful times (I now have two teenage daughters so say no more) I know that I can handle what life throws at me. I’m much more confident, positive about myself and my life, and I’m happier. I’m finally relaxed about food, eating and my weight. And without wanting to sound cocky or anything, I think I’m a good person and I’m proud of who I am. I can also say I like myself and my body. I never ever thought I’d be able to say that!

So if I can do it, so can you! Let me help you, like I’ve helped my other clients. I remember thinking I could do it on my own and I’d do it differently tomorrow. But it is not easy and you need support. There is no better day than today. Let me help you break free AND feel good about it. Let me help you learn to live and love your life. Let me help you feel excited about your future! Get in touch now.

Kim x

1:1 Support

When I finally admitted to myself that I needed help, I went to my GP and was put on a long waiting list to see an Eating Disorder specialist.  I assumed having to wait meant that there wasn’t really a problem (something that negative voice in my head was already telling me anyway), and that I wasn’t ill enough or thin enough to receive help (again confirming what I already was thinking).  During the wait, the eating disorder escalated.  The eating disorder behaviours increased and became more ingrained.  My mental health declined even more.  Not only is early intervention best as there is more chance of recovery, if your BMI is deemed too low, the focus will be to restore weight and any emotional therapy won’t be offered until this happens, which can feel extremely frustrating.

Although I eventually ended up in residential treatment, when I was discharged I still had the urge to go back to restrictive behaviours.  But I found EFT and it transformed my life.

I don’t like using the word ‘recovery’ because before, to me, it meant becoming fat and why would I want help to do that??  But for me now, recovery means simply feeling good about yourself, feeling confident and happier.

And that’s what I achieved along with:

  • Feeling in control of my life without the eating disorder
  • Feeling happy with my body
  • Quietening the voice in my head
  • Enjoying eating with no anxiety, guilt or shame
  • No overeating or bingeing
  • Only thinking about food around meal times
  • Feeling confident in and good about myself
  • Able to socialise with people and not isolate myself
  • Not feeling weak, tired or cold – in fact knowing I’m strong
  • Feeling good enough
  • Feeling safe, secure and loved
  • Knowing my purpose and feeling that I belong
  • Feeling contentment
  • No longer living in fear

My confidence has also allowed me to:

  • Deliver lectures to students in schools
  • Deliver training to people with anxiety
  • Deliver talks to professionals about working with people with eating disorders
  • Drive 1800 miles around Europe in 5 days for charity, on the Screwball Rally and socialise with hundreds of people involved
  • Take part in a photoshoot for Daily Mail newspaper
  • Share my story with thousands of people through the media and through my book

And if I can do this, so can you!

Due to my own experience of anorexia, I am able to offer a professional service whilst ensuring you feel listened to, understood, taken seriously, feel safe and secure, treated with warmth and compassion and not judged.  Honestly, I’m outraged and disgusted by some of the comments ‘the professionals’ have told my clients!  This is far from helpful.

I am offering 1:1 intensive support to you if:

  • you’re ready to change your life
  • you’ve decided you’ve had enough of feeling crap
  • you’re ready to let go of the emotional baggage you’ve been carrying
  • you’re ready to start feeling better.

Sound good?

Then invest in the Kiss Goodbye To Ana – Awaken Beautiful Badass sessions!!

  • Block of 4 x weekly 1:1 sessions, of 2 hour durations, via Zoom
  • One 20 minute telephone call in between sessions
  • Pre- work prior to the first session and weekly homework
  • Lifetime Access to Resource Library consisting of Videos, Worksheets, Exercises, Tools, Strategies
  • Free access to live Group Beautiful Badass Programme

Investment – £1127

The Kiss Goodbye To Ana – Awaken Beautiful Badass sessions will give you the best tools and support possible to start you on your journey.  Further blocks of 4 sessions can be booked as necessary.

From working with young people, I’ve found that it is essential that parents receive support and work through their emotions too.  So if you’re a parent/carer looking for support for your child, I offer the following programme:

  • Block of 8 x weekly 1:1 sessions, of 2 hour durations, via Zoom ( 3 x parent sessions, 3 x child sessions, 2 x family sessions)
  • One 20 minute telephone call in between sessions
  • Pre-work prior to the first session and weekly homework
  • Lifetime Access to Resource Library consisting of Videos, Worksheets, Exercises, Tools, Strategies
  • Free access to live Group Beautiful Badass Programme

Investment – £2247

Further blocks of 4 sessions can be booked as necessary.

Please book a call with me for a free consultation and to discuss whether these sessions are suitable for you. This is NOT a sales call, I just provide you with the information you need in order to make a decision. I believe that you will have a much better chance of recovery if you work with someone you feel comfortable with, and if you’re ready, so I never look to persuade anyone to work with me.

Chat With Kim

Alternatively, if you’re not ready for change just yet, but you’d like to speak to someone who understands, won’t judge you, and will listen, why not book a chat with me?  We can do this via telephone or Zoom whichever you prefer.

My clients regularly say that they enjoy working with me because I ‘get it’ and they find it easier to talk to me because of this.  Talking to someone about how you feel is healthier than bottling it up, and can help you feel less alone and feel hopeful that positive change is possible.

Or alternatively, if you’re a parent or carer and would like to chat to someone, book a chat with me.  Eating disorders affect the whole family and it’s important for you to have support too!

Investment – £50 per hour

Email kim@kissgoodbyetoana.com now to arrange your chat with me!

Group Support

If you’d prefer group support, sign up to my Beautiful Badass group programme!

  • 8 x weekly workshops live over Zoom.
  • 2 hour workshops including brief interval
  • Each workshop will be structured to include both training and support

The workshops will cover:

  • Understanding yourself – what matters to you? How and why you should build your life around your values
  • Self Confidence – why aren’t you confident? Shift your outlook and use effective strategies to boost your self confidence
  • Self Esteem – stop beating yourself up! Strategies to value yourself more
  • People Pleasing – why you can’t please people all the time, break the cycle and put your own needs first, feel comfortable saying no
  • Overwhelm – signs of overwhelm, learning to ask for help, learn how to balance things
  • Fear and Anxiety – where does it come from and how you can manage it, knowing you’re not alone
  • Forgiveness – what resentments are you holding onto, what is this costing you and how you let it go
  • Health and Wellbeing – why self-care and being kind to yourself is so important and strategies that you can fit into your schedule

You will learn various techniques and tools, you’ll then have a chance to try them out and ask any questions plus share any issues so we can support you.

You will be expected to sign a confidentiality agreement beforehand so that this is a safe space for everyone.

Programme Investment – £160

If you’re interested or would like to know more, email kim@kissgoodbyetoana.com