Kiss Goodbye To Ana
Helping you Recover From Anorexia and/or Bulimia
"How to Kiss Goodbye To Ana - Using EFT in Recovery From Anorexia"
published by Jessica Kingley Publishers (based in London and Philadelphia).
A personal and professional account of how EFT can aid in recovery from anorexia, including my own diary extracts, questionnaires, worksheets and easy to follow tapping scripts, as well as other resources.
Providing practical advice and techniques to help people with anorexia (and other eating disorders) to feel relaxed about food and their body, to allow them to feel free without anxiety.
• Do you struggle with eating?
• Are you stuck in a cycle between restricting and bingeing?
• Does part of you want to stay safe where you are but another is desperate to find a way out?
• Would you like help but fear losing control and gaining weight?
Would you like to:
• Quieten the voice in your head?
• Feel more relaxed around food, eating and your body?
• Increase your confidence and self-esteem?
As a recoverer of anorexia and bulimia, I share my own story, mostly in diary form whilst I was an inpatient, how every day I felt tortured by the negative voices in my head. When I was discharged, although I learned to eat, the voices still taunted me.
I discuss what helped me recover and in particular how EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) transformed my life by dealing with the root cause(s) and changing my mindset rather than focusing on meal plans and goal weights. Once I felt confident and strong, the voice in my head went quiet, and the reasons I never wanted to recover, diminished. Recovery was the battle of my life but I won!
Now a qualified Practitioner helping other women, I outline options for help available and specifically how EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can be used as a self-help tool. The book includes: questionnaires, worksheets and tapping scripts, and looks at denial and fears about recovery.
I write to offer hope and encouragement, and advise on how to give yourself the best chance to break free. I knows that others unfortunately haven’t had the same happy ending and my heart goes out to their families, and it is in memory of those tortured souls that I have written this book. I pray that no one has to endure further suffering to the devil in their head.
“This profoundly moving book chronicles the underlying issues behind the author’s descent into the darkness only sufferers of anorexia and bulimia truly know. Gained through her own healing journey, Kim offers hope to fellow sufferers with practical and therapeutic solutions…a must read for anyone suffering from eating disorders, and their families.”
Karl Dawson, Author, Creator of Matrix Reimprinting, EFT Founding Master
“Compelling and Honest”
My name is Kim Marshall.
Having recovered from anorexia, I know first hand how consuming it can be. You start off thinking of anorexia (Ana) as your best friend, who you can depend on, is always there for you and who makes you feel better about yourself. Well initially that’s true. But then your best friend switches and starts saying hateful things about you and places strict demands on you. You may know that this isn’t right, but you go along with it anyway because she’s already gotten hold of you, took your confidence and self worth. It’s a desperate place to be where you feel alone and don’t know how to feel better.
As a qualified practitioner, I want to reach out to you and give you hope.
Offering a gentle approach, I work with your underlying emotions rather than concentrate on food and weight. Because restricting is a symptom of anorexia, I look to get rid of the root cause so that total recovery is possible, rather than just ‘managing’ your eating disorder.
I am a qualified EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner and a member of the professional bodies, AAMET and EFTMRA. You may not have heard of these techniques, but that doesn’t matter, they are just the tools I use in order to help you, and they work incredibly well.
Being in control made me feel good and with Ana by my side I felt invincible. However this feeling didn’t last and soon she became abusive, making me feel worthless, despising myself and my body. I became tortured by the voice in my head, by food, eating and strived for goals that would never lead to happiness. I felt like I was in the deepest darkest well with no chink of light shining through. Every time I tried to eat a little more I’d be consumed by guilt and shame and Ana would scream at me, and this led to a binge. Even more guilt, shame and screaming followed and I’d be desperate to get rid of the food I’d just eaten. I felt alone and desperate and considered suicide several times a day. Part of me wanted to get out of the well, but the other wanted to stay, as I wanted to stay safe and in control. I struggled to want to recover as I just thought it meant I’d be fat, and the thought of putting on weight terrified me.
Eventually I was admitted as an inpatient to an eating disorders centre and although during the 4 months there I learned to eat and restored weight, the voice in my head never ceased and when I was discharged I still felt the urge to return to old behaviours.
I was soon introduced to EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) which I used to transform my life by dealing with the root cause(s) of the eating disorder which changed the way I felt about myself. I used to feel fat, ugly, worthless, unlovable, second best to everyone else, like I didn’t belong, that I had to be perfect in order for people to like me. Now I see things so much differently after clearing the issues from my past. I now feel able to deal with my life and although I still have stressful times (I now have two teenage daughters so say no more) I know that I can handle what life throws at me. I’m much more confident, positive about myself and my life, and I’m happier. I’m finally relaxed about food, eating and my weight. And without wanting to sound cocky or anything, I think I’m a good person and I’m proud of who I am. I can also say I like myself and my body. I never ever thought I’d be able to say that!
So if I can do it, so can you! Let me help you, like I’ve helped my other clients. I remember thinking I could do it on my own and I’d do it differently tomorrow. But it is not easy and you need support. There is no better day than today. Let me help you break free AND feel good about it. Let me help you learn to live and love your life. Let me help you feel excited about your future! Get in touch now.
Do you want help but fear losing control and gaining weight?
I address your fears and underlying issues which help you:
- Quiet the voice in your head
- End the restrict/binge cycle
- Feel more relaxed about food and eating
- Not constantly think about food
- Feel better about yourself and your body
- Increase your confidence and self esteem
- Feel able to socialise and not isolate
- Not feel weak, tired and cold
- Feel good enough
- Feel safe and secure
Due to my own experience of anorexia, I am able to offer a professional service whilst ensuring you
feel listened to, understood, taken seriously, feel safe and secure, treated with warmth and compassion
and not judged.
Invest in the 12 Week Programme (Complete Support) - £1797
• Weekly 1:1 sessions, between 1.5 – 2 hours, via skype or telephone to work on your
negative beliefs and the root issues of your eating disorder so you feel much more
positive about yourself;
• Videos and worksheets so you can do further work yourself in between our sessions, to
allow faster transformation to take place; eg. working on your beliefs about recovery,
dealing with the voices in your head, working on barriers to change, helping you to
• Individual daily “check in” to make sure you’re on track, or to get further support and
guidance if you need it; so you’re not feeling left alone in between weekly sessions;
• Other self help resources for you to use.
This programme give the best support possible to enable you to start to transform how you feel about
yourself and your life, as I hold your hand every step of the way.
Please book a call with me for a free consultation and to discuss whether this is a suitable programme for
you. This is NOT a sales call, I just provide you with the information you need in order to make a decision. I
believe that you will have a much better chance of recovery if you work with someone you feel comfortable
with, and if you’re ready, so I never look to persuade anyone to work with me.
Q: Why can't I just book a weekly session with you?
A: Recovery from an eating disorder requires motivation and I find that this programme works best for my clients as they are committed to working with me for an amount of time. I know myself how easy it can be to cancel an appointment at the last minute, due to anxiety and this programme helps avoid this.
Q: I'm so busy, I'm not sure I have the time to commit to this?
A: Consider prioritising yourself, your recovery needs to come first. How bad do you need to feel before you’ll get the help you deserve? Believe me, it only gets more difficult and there’s never a better day to start working towards recovery, than today.
Q: I’m not sure I can afford it?
A: Are you not worth investing in? How much is transforming your life, feeling happy, being free of an eating disorder, worth to you? Can you afford not to? When I had weekly sessions, I felt very alone for the rest of the week and would struggle to implement anything we’d discuss. Hence why I’m offering as much support as you need on a daily basis, making this programme fantastic value. However I do understand financial concerns so there is a payment plan available should this be required. Just ask.
Q: I’m not sure I’m ready?
A: I totally get this, the eating disorder has been your way of coping and staying in control so the thought of giving that up is scary! There are so many other fears about gaining weight, losing your identity, losing support from others and them thinking that you’re OK. I understand this and can help you eliminate these fears.
Q: Can you really help me? Is recovery actually possible?
A: Yes and yes! I have helped women who have struggled for decades, who weren’t sure if recovery was possible for them, have tried various treatments in the past that didn’t work, but who have totally transformed their lives when working with me.
“I started working with Kim just after I hit rock bottom. I had never heard of this tapping technique and was so desperate to find anything that would help ease my anxiety around food. After having a consultation meeting I decided to go for the 12 week package in which I saw Kim every week and we would work on root causes regarding my eating disorder. After tapping on different comments, situations, the way I feel about people , gave me much more understanding of the whole situation. Knowing that Kim had gone through the same experience as me was really comforting as she completely understood all my worries and anxiety around food. She was so patient and didn’t judge me with anything I said to her. I loved being able to keep in touch every day and help me decide what puddings I should have! I still continue tapping everyday and I find it relaxes me and makes me feel less guilty. One thing I should mention regarding tapping is you need to be patient and give time for it to work as it takes a bit of practice to get used to. After the first few weeks I got into a routine and found that doing tapping in the morning and when I go to bed suits me. I still keep in touch with Kim now and she has definitely been a big help with my recovery process. I would recommend this treatment for other people suffering as it’s a small price to pay for your health and you get to meet an inspirational woman”. RC
“I worked with Kim for three months and working with her really helped me at a time when I was feeling very low and out of control. She is a kind, warm and friendly person who very quickly put me at ease and I really enjoyed working with her. She really helped me to explore my issues and the causes of them and to develop strategies and skills for dealing with things that come up in the future. I would highly recommend working with Kim to others and I know that if I need help further down the road I wouldn't hesitate to call her again” JE
“With very rich experience, tremendous amount of patience and lots of compassion, Kim can always lift me out of any kind of emotional problems that I came to her with. To be able to work with Kim is a blessing for me” By SZ
“I expected you to be good, I didn’t expect you to be a miracle worker!” By SL
“THANK YOU for helping my daughter. Its been hard here to write about the subtle but incredible miracles that we have seen” By Mother of BS
“Before I came to Kim, I think it is fair to say that I had hit rock bottom and had been ill for over 20 years, starting with Anorexia in my late teens, with the illness morphing to include Bulimia nervosa and compulsive eating. In short I was depressed, had an awful relationship with food and lived my life in constant stress response. At 42 years of age I was still suffering from Bulimic episodes, as well as compulsive and disordered eating. I had already tried conventional eating disorder treatment, cognitive behavioural therapy, psychotherapy, not to mention a bewildering array of anti depressant drug therapy, with varying degrees of success, but the fact was, I was STILL ill, and the underlying problems that contributed to my disorder were still there. When I first started the work with Kim, I was skeptical of how something so simple could solve such huge problems. I could not understand how tapping could work, when other more conventional treatments had had slower and more minimal impact on my disease. I was and still am totally amazed by the powerful effects that tapping has had on me. If you are willing to do the work each day, it can, and will have a striking and positive impact on your illness. It is possible to de power the negative emotions that lead to your eating disorder. I am in awe of its affects on me, and the best thing about it is, that now I have learned the skill, I can use it any time I need it. Simple, yet effective. I cannot thank Kim enough for what she has taught me”. SL
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Want to know exactly what I did to become free of anorexia, so that I became free of anxiety, that voice in my head, and I felt relaxed about myself AND my body?
Tapping On The Fear of Doing Something Different
Do you have a fear of recovery based on gaining weight, losing your identity, losing your control and your safety net and so many other fears? Are these fears stopping you from reaching out for help or engaging?
10 Steps To Feeling Better About Yourself
Want to feel better about yourself? Feel good enough? Stop beating yourself up? Stop comparing yourself to others? This is the key to recovery and is totally possible.
Take the First Step
I know how difficult it can be to take the first step, either making that phone call or sending that email.
However, the earlier you seek treatment, the better your chance of recovery.
Often we want to talk to someone who understands and knows what you’re going through. Well that’s definitely me and
I’d love you to get in touch. We can arrange an informal chat to discuss whether working with me is right for you.
If you would like help, please get in touch
I am based in Pershore, Worcestershire but use Skype and telephone regularly with clients worldwide